Lefovers and Laughter
You know that just before that first Thanksgiving dinner, there was one wise old Native American woman saying, “Don’t feed them. If you feed them they’ll never leave.”
Dylan Brody
Thanksgiving is an emotional time. People travel thousands of miles to be with people they only see once a year. And then discover once a year is way too often.”
Johnny Carson
Last Thanksgiving I shot my own turkey. It was fun. That shot gun going “Blam Blam!” Everybody at the supermarket was just staring. Why track them when I know where they are?
Kenny Rogerson
My brother and his family no longer live with a refrigerator. Oh, they have 2 ice chests with frozen jugs of water that they have to replace about every other day. They make the kids do that. And what prompted them to go back to this 17th century way of living?
Leftovers! Leftovers? Yes, leftovers were one of the reasons they gave up their refrigerator. It wasn’t the only reason, but it’s the one that stuck out in my mind.
November is filled with national ‘food “days. There is Candy Day, Deviled Egg Day, and Cashew Day (which goes with the fact that it is National Peanut Butter Lover‘s Month.). November includes “Cookie Monster’s” birthday and the day that William Tell took a bow and arrow and shot an apple off his kid’s head. (NOTE: Parents, this is not legal.) Halloween candy that was hidden under the bed has now been found by a younger sibling. Aunties and Grandmas are making fruitcakes and cupcakes, oodles of noodles, cookies and tortes, candy wreathes and three story gingerbread houses and last but not least…..there is Thanksgiving.
People from the good ol’ U.S. of A. gobble up 690 million pounds of turkey each Thanksgiving. I have no idea how many pounds of stuffing, mash potatoes, yams or cranberry sauce/relish are made. I do know there will be leftovers.
Food is not the only leftover. There are left over people lying on your sofa, left over rude cousins that don’t know when to go home and there are leftover dishes and arguments as to whom or what will do the dishwashing. There is leftover trash outside created by city wildlife. Leftovers can be so overwhelming. What’s a person to do?
Humor, once again, may be the best defense you have to any kind of leftover. Think of it as an emotional antacid. When tensions arise from the holiday planning or holiday crowding, (in your living room), try reaching for some quiet time with the Sunday funnies. How about one of those silly holiday movies that make you laugh and groan and laugh again? You can also say to Aunt Mildred’ “Let’s listen to Bill Cosby (or some other comedienne), while you both do the dishes. Either she will love it or she will leave the room. Either way you win. Most important, learning to forgive yourself and chuckle at your humanity helps deal with the leftover blues.
November 14th is National Clean Out Your Refrigerator Day. You can then prepare the space for leftovers without over crowding. Clean out and make room in your emotional refrigerator (where you get nurtured) for more humor, laughter, and joy, especially around this time of year. Take a daily dose of mirth as a re-laxative. It can prevent hardening of the attitudes.
My brother may not have many food leftovers and he certainly doesn’t have a refrigerator to clean out. However, he and his family have plenty of leftover mirth, mayhem, silliness and laughter. Perhaps he can send you home with some.
Thanksgiving blessings of Gratitude, Humor, Laughter, Mirth and Joy,
Debra Joy Hart RN BFA CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Monday, November 02, 2009
Friday, October 02, 2009
The only way to get rid of my fears is to make films about them.
Alfred Hitchcock
"All of us are born with a set of instinctive fears--of falling, of the dark, of lobsters, of falling on lobsters in the dark, or speaking before a Rotary Club, and of the words "Some Assembly Required."
Dave Barry
A man has been visiting a therapist because he has had a fear of monsters living under his bed. The man has been seeing this doctor for months. Every time he would come in the doctor would ask "have you made any progress?". Every time the man would say "no." The man decided to go and see another doctor. When he went back to his other doctor and he asked "have you made any progress?" he said "yes, I am feeling all better now" The doctor asked "what happened". The man said "I went to another doctor and he cured me in one session". The doctor asked "What did he tell you?" The man said "he just told me to cut the legs off of my bed".
Internet Joke
Say “October” and you automatically put a smile on my face. I love this time of year. Visually, I love the colors of our beloved Midwest. The smell of bonfires and burning oak with a slight chill in the air excites me. Shuffle walking and crunching leaves on the side walk, (except when the occasional snake crawls out) is a favorite activity. The old horror flicks that appear on TV stir up special childhood memories. And most of all, I love the playfulness of Halloween. I love the risks kids take dressing up and “ parading around”. I can appreciate the loved adult in their life who designs and puts together a costume. Of course there are some that don’t like Halloween. Reasons range from “bad memories” to “fear of what it represents.”
Fear is an interesting phenomena. It’s funny how we teach babies the game of ‘peek-a-boo’, which is really based on the element of fear and surprise. Some of us go to horror movies which is a controlled dose of fear. After all, it’s only a movie, right?
I have faced many types of fears in my life. Fear of loss of health, fear of loss of friendships, fear for a loved one’s safety, fear of losing a job and my list goes on. Maybe you too have faced these same ones and can add a few more. I remember walking thru an alley, 4 police cars pull up, and then I had 4 guns pointed at my head. When they screamed, “ get down” I realized they were yelling at the “ suspect” behind me. I immediately ducked walked along side parked cars and the theme from “ Hawaii 5-0” started playing in my head! As I laughed about the incident, my breathing returned to normal!
So why am I writing about fear in a humor column? Humor is one of the main antidotes to relieving symptoms of fear and anxiety. It helps us disengage from the fear-filled moment, in order to gain a hopeful perspective. The act of laughing reduces the tension that fear induces in our body. Mirth connects our emotional hearts to each other, powerfully reducing isolation and loneliness. Over the past year, as I gained my strength back from physical ailments, I craved the humor, laughter and support that dear friends and family gave me. Humor, Laughter and Mirth can illuminate the darkness that fear lives in. I recognize that not all want to laugh in fearful situations. Sometimes it takes a crack in the fear to let the light in. And everyone cracks up in their own time.
This time of year, you may experience many fears. Fear of the cold, fear of relatives coming over to your house, fear of lack of money, fear of swine flu and lastly, fear of weight gain. I’m sure you can add to the list. However, while you have your list of fears, don’t forget to have the antidote. Keep Laughter, Humor and Mirth close to your body, mind and spirit.
Blessings of gratitude for all who have made laugh along the way,
Debra Joy Hart RN BFA CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Alfred Hitchcock
"All of us are born with a set of instinctive fears--of falling, of the dark, of lobsters, of falling on lobsters in the dark, or speaking before a Rotary Club, and of the words "Some Assembly Required."
Dave Barry
A man has been visiting a therapist because he has had a fear of monsters living under his bed. The man has been seeing this doctor for months. Every time he would come in the doctor would ask "have you made any progress?". Every time the man would say "no." The man decided to go and see another doctor. When he went back to his other doctor and he asked "have you made any progress?" he said "yes, I am feeling all better now" The doctor asked "what happened". The man said "I went to another doctor and he cured me in one session". The doctor asked "What did he tell you?" The man said "he just told me to cut the legs off of my bed".
Internet Joke
Say “October” and you automatically put a smile on my face. I love this time of year. Visually, I love the colors of our beloved Midwest. The smell of bonfires and burning oak with a slight chill in the air excites me. Shuffle walking and crunching leaves on the side walk, (except when the occasional snake crawls out) is a favorite activity. The old horror flicks that appear on TV stir up special childhood memories. And most of all, I love the playfulness of Halloween. I love the risks kids take dressing up and “ parading around”. I can appreciate the loved adult in their life who designs and puts together a costume. Of course there are some that don’t like Halloween. Reasons range from “bad memories” to “fear of what it represents.”
Fear is an interesting phenomena. It’s funny how we teach babies the game of ‘peek-a-boo’, which is really based on the element of fear and surprise. Some of us go to horror movies which is a controlled dose of fear. After all, it’s only a movie, right?
I have faced many types of fears in my life. Fear of loss of health, fear of loss of friendships, fear for a loved one’s safety, fear of losing a job and my list goes on. Maybe you too have faced these same ones and can add a few more. I remember walking thru an alley, 4 police cars pull up, and then I had 4 guns pointed at my head. When they screamed, “ get down” I realized they were yelling at the “ suspect” behind me. I immediately ducked walked along side parked cars and the theme from “ Hawaii 5-0” started playing in my head! As I laughed about the incident, my breathing returned to normal!
So why am I writing about fear in a humor column? Humor is one of the main antidotes to relieving symptoms of fear and anxiety. It helps us disengage from the fear-filled moment, in order to gain a hopeful perspective. The act of laughing reduces the tension that fear induces in our body. Mirth connects our emotional hearts to each other, powerfully reducing isolation and loneliness. Over the past year, as I gained my strength back from physical ailments, I craved the humor, laughter and support that dear friends and family gave me. Humor, Laughter and Mirth can illuminate the darkness that fear lives in. I recognize that not all want to laugh in fearful situations. Sometimes it takes a crack in the fear to let the light in. And everyone cracks up in their own time.
This time of year, you may experience many fears. Fear of the cold, fear of relatives coming over to your house, fear of lack of money, fear of swine flu and lastly, fear of weight gain. I’m sure you can add to the list. However, while you have your list of fears, don’t forget to have the antidote. Keep Laughter, Humor and Mirth close to your body, mind and spirit.
Blessings of gratitude for all who have made laugh along the way,
Debra Joy Hart RN BFA CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Thursday, September 10, 2009
You know there is a problem with the education system when you realize that about the three Rs, only one begins with an R.
Dennis Miller
I will never forget my first day of school. My mom woke me up, got me dressed, made my bed and fed me. Man, did the guys in the dorm tease me.
Michael Aronin
Nothing I learned in school prepared me for life on any level. My first book should have read, ”See Dick balance his checkbook. See Jane leave an unhealthy relationship. Run, Jane, run!”
Kate Mason
September 2009 is host to a lot of bizarre and unique holidays. International Square Dancing Month, National Blueberry Popsicle Month and last but not least….Chicken Month (I really have no idea what this is about).September 6th is “Fight Procrastination Day.” The 14th is “National Cream Filled Donut Day and the 28th of September is “Ask A Stupid Question Day.” September 2nd may be the most bizarre. It’s “National Beheading Day.” People have special days for all this stuff?
A long time ago, school actually started in September, right around Labor Day. To this day, I have the urge to get a new pair of shoes, buy a new notebook and get a pencil box.
I can stop myself from buying new school supplies (well, maybe not the shoes) but I cannot stop that feeling of butterflies in my stomach. That fluttering around always meant, ”I’m on to a new adventure.” I was scared, nervous, happy and excited all at once. School was great!
Of course the teachers that had me didn’t always think so. I confess I was the class clown. I discovered the power of being funny and warding off the bullies in 6th grade. If I could keep them laughing, they wouldn’t pick on me. My report cards often stated, “Dear Mrs. Epstein (my maiden name), Debbie could be a really serious student if she would just settle down and quit giggling.” Yes I would get kicked out of class often, but everyone waved to me while I was in the hall!
Perhaps you remember the class clowns. They were the ones who ran to the rescue of all students when a substitute came. You could laugh most of the day away and not do much work. Maybe you were the serious student that didn’t like when people goofed off. I know when there was tension in the room between students or teacher and students… I could flip the tension around and make people giggle or laugh.
According to Martin Seligman (Authentic Happiness ) class clowns have 4 strengths:
INVESTING: Class clowns are willing to jump in and take a risk.
ASSERTING: Class clowns are constantly involved in the process of affirmation to claim their own integrity.
RELATING: Class clowns have a talent for identifying with others and sensing their feelings.
COPING: Class clowns find ways to successfully cope with life’s challenges.
Being playful and joyous, taking on challenges, risking a smile to make another smile are all strengths. Look at children playing in a park. They take a risk to play on some unknown playground equipment. They skip and run after butterflies or pigeons. They smile back at you, just to get a nod of approval. If you seem sad, the child may make a silly face or imitate you, just to get a response.
I’ve put my ‘class clowning’ to good use over the years. Occasionally I make some serious person upset. I apologize to them and go on my merry way. I can be ‘professionally serious’ but only when I have to.
Today, I hope you get a chance to remember the “class clowns” in your life. Silently thank them for encouraging you to take the risk to laugh. It could lead you to 2 more September holidays: “Positive Thinking Day ( 9/13) and “ World Gratitude Day”
( 9/21).
Blessings of Laughter, Humor, Mirth and Joy,
Debra Joy Hart RN, BFA, CLL (your long time class clown)
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Dennis Miller
I will never forget my first day of school. My mom woke me up, got me dressed, made my bed and fed me. Man, did the guys in the dorm tease me.
Michael Aronin
Nothing I learned in school prepared me for life on any level. My first book should have read, ”See Dick balance his checkbook. See Jane leave an unhealthy relationship. Run, Jane, run!”
Kate Mason
September 2009 is host to a lot of bizarre and unique holidays. International Square Dancing Month, National Blueberry Popsicle Month and last but not least….Chicken Month (I really have no idea what this is about).September 6th is “Fight Procrastination Day.” The 14th is “National Cream Filled Donut Day and the 28th of September is “Ask A Stupid Question Day.” September 2nd may be the most bizarre. It’s “National Beheading Day.” People have special days for all this stuff?
A long time ago, school actually started in September, right around Labor Day. To this day, I have the urge to get a new pair of shoes, buy a new notebook and get a pencil box.
I can stop myself from buying new school supplies (well, maybe not the shoes) but I cannot stop that feeling of butterflies in my stomach. That fluttering around always meant, ”I’m on to a new adventure.” I was scared, nervous, happy and excited all at once. School was great!
Of course the teachers that had me didn’t always think so. I confess I was the class clown. I discovered the power of being funny and warding off the bullies in 6th grade. If I could keep them laughing, they wouldn’t pick on me. My report cards often stated, “Dear Mrs. Epstein (my maiden name), Debbie could be a really serious student if she would just settle down and quit giggling.” Yes I would get kicked out of class often, but everyone waved to me while I was in the hall!
Perhaps you remember the class clowns. They were the ones who ran to the rescue of all students when a substitute came. You could laugh most of the day away and not do much work. Maybe you were the serious student that didn’t like when people goofed off. I know when there was tension in the room between students or teacher and students… I could flip the tension around and make people giggle or laugh.
According to Martin Seligman (Authentic Happiness ) class clowns have 4 strengths:
INVESTING: Class clowns are willing to jump in and take a risk.
ASSERTING: Class clowns are constantly involved in the process of affirmation to claim their own integrity.
RELATING: Class clowns have a talent for identifying with others and sensing their feelings.
COPING: Class clowns find ways to successfully cope with life’s challenges.
Being playful and joyous, taking on challenges, risking a smile to make another smile are all strengths. Look at children playing in a park. They take a risk to play on some unknown playground equipment. They skip and run after butterflies or pigeons. They smile back at you, just to get a nod of approval. If you seem sad, the child may make a silly face or imitate you, just to get a response.
I’ve put my ‘class clowning’ to good use over the years. Occasionally I make some serious person upset. I apologize to them and go on my merry way. I can be ‘professionally serious’ but only when I have to.
Today, I hope you get a chance to remember the “class clowns” in your life. Silently thank them for encouraging you to take the risk to laugh. It could lead you to 2 more September holidays: “Positive Thinking Day ( 9/13) and “ World Gratitude Day”
( 9/21).
Blessings of Laughter, Humor, Mirth and Joy,
Debra Joy Hart RN, BFA, CLL (your long time class clown)
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
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Well, I got quite the write up last month. I admit I was extremely nervous " coming out' about my bouts of depression and aura readings. The nite before , I woke up feeling like I had "an elephant sitting on my chest ( butt side to my face).' I figured I was either having a heart attack ( classic sign) or anxiety attack( also classic sign). I decided if I woke up in the morning, it was only an anxiety attack. My self dx was correct. Enjoy the article!
Well, I got quite the write up last month. I admit I was extremely nervous " coming out' about my bouts of depression and aura readings. The nite before , I woke up feeling like I had "an elephant sitting on my chest ( butt side to my face).' I figured I was either having a heart attack ( classic sign) or anxiety attack( also classic sign). I decided if I woke up in the morning, it was only an anxiety attack. My self dx was correct. Enjoy the article!
Sunday, August 02, 2009
“I never forget a face, but in your case, I’ll make an exception.”
Groucho Marx, target unknown
“He’s a nice guy, but he played too much football with his helmet off.”
Lyndon B. Johnson on Gerald Ford
‘”Good taste would likely have the same effect on Howard Stern that daylight has on Dracula.”
Ted Koppel
For the past 8 months I have been writing about how humor, laughter, mirth and joy, increases our immune power, improves heart health, increases your sense of well being, improves relationships and ….the list goes on.
Today, right before I started to write this article I didn’t feel like taking my own medicine. I slipped and fell on the 4th of July, hurt my leg, can’t do my usual yoga, cant ride my bike and the last straw came today. We had our windows cleaned professionally this past week and they were so clean that I didn’t see that the sliding glass door was closed. I ran smack into it. My nose hurt for an hour and I left a big grease mark. As I got the glass cleaner, my concerned husband heard my yelp (translation: several ‘blue’ words) and asked what happened. I was so angry I almost answered him with direct aim of the Windex bottle to his groin. Any other time I may have considered this funny slapstick, a mere slip on a banana peel. Not today… I had enough of feeling physical pain, clumsiness and helplessness...
I sat down at my computer to write M.I.R.T.H. Notes… and there in my email box, was a seemingly sweet story, with a surprise , sarcastic, superior, caustic, rude ending. I laughed a hearty,”HA.” In fact, I hated to admit it, I felt better.
C.W. Metcalf writes,” Although comedy can be used to injure and separate, it can also be used to transform anxiety to pleasure.’
I think of the gallows humor that nurses (me included) use to cope daily with Cancer, AIDS, Alzheimer’s and Hospice patients. Nurse humor is only for other nurses.
I remember the time I was a hospital clown and there was a woman in a full body cast. She was totally dependent on everyone for her personal daily habits. She was also mad at one of her doctors. She had seemingly no control over anything. I got that ‘brat like twinkle’ in my eye, and wrote the MD’s phone number on her cast... “For a good time call 555-5555.” She crinkled her nose and laughed. She regained control and composure with safely expressed hostile humor.
Consider the story (usually attributed to Norman Cousins, a pioneer in laughter therapy) about the man with constant pain, in the hospital. He was fed up with tests and the constant disregard of his current nurse. Once again she said ‘WE need another urine sample” and placed the cup in front of him... When she left the room, he filled it up with apple juice. The nurse came in, stating, “My aren’t WE looking a little cloudy?” Norman put the cup to his lips, and sarcastically stated, “Well, WE will just send it thru again.”
Yes, this is sarcastic humor at one nurse’s expense. And yet, it’s also a relief of tension for the patient.
Many have lost their income, homes and healthcare. Making fun of the politicians, bankers and employers may give people some semblance of control over the indignity of it all.
Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust Survivor (Man’s Search for Meaning) says it best:
Humor was another of the soul’s weapons in the fight for self preservation. It is well known that humor more than anything else in the human make-up, can afford an aloofness and ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds.
I feel better; perhaps it was looking up famous insults for this article. Maybe it was listening to Tom Lehrer songs. I think I can kiss my husband now. And, more importantly, avoid the sliding glass doors.
Blessings of Humor, Laughter and Mirth (and a little bit of sarcasm),
Debra Joy Hart RN, BFA, CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Groucho Marx, target unknown
“He’s a nice guy, but he played too much football with his helmet off.”
Lyndon B. Johnson on Gerald Ford
‘”Good taste would likely have the same effect on Howard Stern that daylight has on Dracula.”
Ted Koppel
For the past 8 months I have been writing about how humor, laughter, mirth and joy, increases our immune power, improves heart health, increases your sense of well being, improves relationships and ….the list goes on.
Today, right before I started to write this article I didn’t feel like taking my own medicine. I slipped and fell on the 4th of July, hurt my leg, can’t do my usual yoga, cant ride my bike and the last straw came today. We had our windows cleaned professionally this past week and they were so clean that I didn’t see that the sliding glass door was closed. I ran smack into it. My nose hurt for an hour and I left a big grease mark. As I got the glass cleaner, my concerned husband heard my yelp (translation: several ‘blue’ words) and asked what happened. I was so angry I almost answered him with direct aim of the Windex bottle to his groin. Any other time I may have considered this funny slapstick, a mere slip on a banana peel. Not today… I had enough of feeling physical pain, clumsiness and helplessness...
I sat down at my computer to write M.I.R.T.H. Notes… and there in my email box, was a seemingly sweet story, with a surprise , sarcastic, superior, caustic, rude ending. I laughed a hearty,”HA.” In fact, I hated to admit it, I felt better.
C.W. Metcalf writes,” Although comedy can be used to injure and separate, it can also be used to transform anxiety to pleasure.’
I think of the gallows humor that nurses (me included) use to cope daily with Cancer, AIDS, Alzheimer’s and Hospice patients. Nurse humor is only for other nurses.
I remember the time I was a hospital clown and there was a woman in a full body cast. She was totally dependent on everyone for her personal daily habits. She was also mad at one of her doctors. She had seemingly no control over anything. I got that ‘brat like twinkle’ in my eye, and wrote the MD’s phone number on her cast... “For a good time call 555-5555.” She crinkled her nose and laughed. She regained control and composure with safely expressed hostile humor.
Consider the story (usually attributed to Norman Cousins, a pioneer in laughter therapy) about the man with constant pain, in the hospital. He was fed up with tests and the constant disregard of his current nurse. Once again she said ‘WE need another urine sample” and placed the cup in front of him... When she left the room, he filled it up with apple juice. The nurse came in, stating, “My aren’t WE looking a little cloudy?” Norman put the cup to his lips, and sarcastically stated, “Well, WE will just send it thru again.”
Yes, this is sarcastic humor at one nurse’s expense. And yet, it’s also a relief of tension for the patient.
Many have lost their income, homes and healthcare. Making fun of the politicians, bankers and employers may give people some semblance of control over the indignity of it all.
Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust Survivor (Man’s Search for Meaning) says it best:
Humor was another of the soul’s weapons in the fight for self preservation. It is well known that humor more than anything else in the human make-up, can afford an aloofness and ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds.
I feel better; perhaps it was looking up famous insults for this article. Maybe it was listening to Tom Lehrer songs. I think I can kiss my husband now. And, more importantly, avoid the sliding glass doors.
Blessings of Humor, Laughter and Mirth (and a little bit of sarcasm),
Debra Joy Hart RN, BFA, CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Sunday, July 05, 2009
The constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself. Benjamin Franklin
What would you get if you crossed the first signer of the Declaration of Independence with a rooster?
John Hancock-a-doodle-doo!
America is one place where people have complete control over how they pay their taxes—cash, check or money order. Nathan Hale
I just got back from a 10 day tour of Ireland. I fell in love with the colors of the land (more shades of green than I can count) stately Cana lilies, with a poke of yellow, and 5 colors of untamed rhododendron bushes. I loved scones, rashers of ham, and I discovered the joy of Jameson Irish whiskey, poured into an evening cup of coffee.
Pubs shared Irish music with a country ‘twang.” With Guinness™, Smithwick™ and Jameson™ flowing, we clapped and sang along to Irish ballads. I kareoke’d with new Australian friends and cherished the friendly competition of Paddy Wagon™ Bus 1 vs. Bus 2. Our bus won for number of times singing, Bus 2 won for quality.
A new respect for’ sense” of humor was gained as I traveled with 11 of our own family (2 whom are British), and 4 newly made Australian and Germans friends.
Humor (according to Webster’s definition 5) is the ability to perceive, appreciate or express what is funny, amusing or ludicrous.
While my own sense of humor waned while climbing 3 flights of narrow stairs, sleeping with 8 others in bunk bed quarters, rented towels and one sheet per person, I relied on my husband’s steadfast silliness.
I watched with respect as I saw how others made the best of some uncomfortable situations. The Australians laughed off the rude competitive remarks of our Irish tour guide. While recounting Irish history, this tour guide also made many negative comments directed toward the British. John and Mark, both from England, were able to vent the tension with good humor at mealtimes.
Humor is relative to a situation. Being from the Midwest, seeing a sign that demonstrates’ no cliff Jumping”, is funny to me. Seeing sheep with different colors painted on their back makes me smile.
Hearing our tour guide cuss gently in an Irish brogue made me laugh. I had no idea if it was even directed at me.
I’m happy to be home. I’m glad to celebrate our country’s freedom. I appreciate this country’s emotional growth, from British rule, civil war,
Racism, terrorism, homophobia and the sexual revolution. Most of all, I appreciate and honor the freedom of laughter. Laughter has no accent.
Special blessing of gratitude, humor, mirth and joy go to: Darrell, Kate, Geri, Steph/Dan, Chuck/Sandy, John/Sharon, Mark/Betsi, Aza/Kat, Spence, Ulrike and Stephanie,
Debra Joy Hart RN BFA CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
What would you get if you crossed the first signer of the Declaration of Independence with a rooster?
John Hancock-a-doodle-doo!
America is one place where people have complete control over how they pay their taxes—cash, check or money order. Nathan Hale
I just got back from a 10 day tour of Ireland. I fell in love with the colors of the land (more shades of green than I can count) stately Cana lilies, with a poke of yellow, and 5 colors of untamed rhododendron bushes. I loved scones, rashers of ham, and I discovered the joy of Jameson Irish whiskey, poured into an evening cup of coffee.
Pubs shared Irish music with a country ‘twang.” With Guinness™, Smithwick™ and Jameson™ flowing, we clapped and sang along to Irish ballads. I kareoke’d with new Australian friends and cherished the friendly competition of Paddy Wagon™ Bus 1 vs. Bus 2. Our bus won for number of times singing, Bus 2 won for quality.
A new respect for’ sense” of humor was gained as I traveled with 11 of our own family (2 whom are British), and 4 newly made Australian and Germans friends.
Humor (according to Webster’s definition 5) is the ability to perceive, appreciate or express what is funny, amusing or ludicrous.
While my own sense of humor waned while climbing 3 flights of narrow stairs, sleeping with 8 others in bunk bed quarters, rented towels and one sheet per person, I relied on my husband’s steadfast silliness.
I watched with respect as I saw how others made the best of some uncomfortable situations. The Australians laughed off the rude competitive remarks of our Irish tour guide. While recounting Irish history, this tour guide also made many negative comments directed toward the British. John and Mark, both from England, were able to vent the tension with good humor at mealtimes.
Humor is relative to a situation. Being from the Midwest, seeing a sign that demonstrates’ no cliff Jumping”, is funny to me. Seeing sheep with different colors painted on their back makes me smile.
Hearing our tour guide cuss gently in an Irish brogue made me laugh. I had no idea if it was even directed at me.
I’m happy to be home. I’m glad to celebrate our country’s freedom. I appreciate this country’s emotional growth, from British rule, civil war,
Racism, terrorism, homophobia and the sexual revolution. Most of all, I appreciate and honor the freedom of laughter. Laughter has no accent.
Special blessing of gratitude, humor, mirth and joy go to: Darrell, Kate, Geri, Steph/Dan, Chuck/Sandy, John/Sharon, Mark/Betsi, Aza/Kat, Spence, Ulrike and Stephanie,
Debra Joy Hart RN BFA CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
"The arrival of a good clown exercises more beneficial influence upon the health of a town than 20 donkeys laden with drugs."
Thomas Sydenham, seventeenth century English physician
I hate the saying’ always a bridesmaid, never a bride” I like to put it into perspective thinking; “Always a pallbearer, never a corpse” Laura Knightlinger
A graduation ceremony is an event where the commencement speaker tells thousands of students dressed in identical caps and gowns that 'individuality' is the key to success. Robert Orben
June is a month to celebrate many things. We celebrate weddings, graduations, vacations, reunions, children are out of school and “Thank- God- there- is –summer school.”
With all these celebrations are family get-togethers. And with family usually comes ‘differences of opinion’ aka “arguments”. Sometimes it’s the off handed comment, meant for no one but hurts someone. Occasionally it’s a crash of personalities, both going the same way on a one lane road. For myself, sometimes I just run out of ‘nice minutes’ (on my internal party meter) and I know its time to leave, before the fireworks begin. I had an uncle that “was just joking” when actually, his words were hurtful. Perhaps meaningful siblings make a joke to relieve tension, and the awkwardness just causes more. How many of us have met the relative that says or does something so ridiculous that the rest of the family bonds over our collective groans of embarrassment? (Imagine Aunt Janie whistling “Here Comes the Bride” thru her bottom dentures… at your wedding)
All of the above are examples of “good humor’ gone bad. When someone makes a joke that implies “superiority”, well, someone has to be “inferior’ in order for the joke to work. We participate in jokes like that all the time. Male vs. Female, Blondes vs. Brunettes, or Americans vs. Terrorist are all examples of jokes that come to my emails daily. Sometimes I laugh, sometimes I share and most I delete.
Some people insist on putting those quirky “emoticons (think weird smiley face made from colon, dash and back parenthesis) after they write something teasing or sarcastic in an email. If we have to relieve tension this way, maybe we just should'nt send it!
Lastly, in the peak of tension, some people think they need to entertain and distract from the moment. Sometimes I’m grateful for the distraction... and sometimes I’m not. My husband is particularly fond of this type of humor. And why not? He learned it from me.
June is also Firework Safety Month. Stay a safe distance from firecrackers, sparklers and spiteful jokes. Forgive yourself and others for the occasional “misstep’ of humor. Most important, seek out and celebrate the healing power of humor.
Blessings of Gratitude, Humor, Laughter and Mirth,
Debra Joy Hart RN, BFA, CLL
Thomas Sydenham, seventeenth century English physician
I hate the saying’ always a bridesmaid, never a bride” I like to put it into perspective thinking; “Always a pallbearer, never a corpse” Laura Knightlinger
A graduation ceremony is an event where the commencement speaker tells thousands of students dressed in identical caps and gowns that 'individuality' is the key to success. Robert Orben
June is a month to celebrate many things. We celebrate weddings, graduations, vacations, reunions, children are out of school and “Thank- God- there- is –summer school.”
With all these celebrations are family get-togethers. And with family usually comes ‘differences of opinion’ aka “arguments”. Sometimes it’s the off handed comment, meant for no one but hurts someone. Occasionally it’s a crash of personalities, both going the same way on a one lane road. For myself, sometimes I just run out of ‘nice minutes’ (on my internal party meter) and I know its time to leave, before the fireworks begin. I had an uncle that “was just joking” when actually, his words were hurtful. Perhaps meaningful siblings make a joke to relieve tension, and the awkwardness just causes more. How many of us have met the relative that says or does something so ridiculous that the rest of the family bonds over our collective groans of embarrassment? (Imagine Aunt Janie whistling “Here Comes the Bride” thru her bottom dentures… at your wedding)
All of the above are examples of “good humor’ gone bad. When someone makes a joke that implies “superiority”, well, someone has to be “inferior’ in order for the joke to work. We participate in jokes like that all the time. Male vs. Female, Blondes vs. Brunettes, or Americans vs. Terrorist are all examples of jokes that come to my emails daily. Sometimes I laugh, sometimes I share and most I delete.
Some people insist on putting those quirky “emoticons (think weird smiley face made from colon, dash and back parenthesis) after they write something teasing or sarcastic in an email. If we have to relieve tension this way, maybe we just should'nt send it!
Lastly, in the peak of tension, some people think they need to entertain and distract from the moment. Sometimes I’m grateful for the distraction... and sometimes I’m not. My husband is particularly fond of this type of humor. And why not? He learned it from me.
June is also Firework Safety Month. Stay a safe distance from firecrackers, sparklers and spiteful jokes. Forgive yourself and others for the occasional “misstep’ of humor. Most important, seek out and celebrate the healing power of humor.
Blessings of Gratitude, Humor, Laughter and Mirth,
Debra Joy Hart RN, BFA, CLL
A woman marries hoping that he will change and he doesn’t. A man marries hoping she wont change and she does. Joey Bishop
Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.
Phyllis Diller
I love being married. Its so great to find that special person you want to annoy the rest of your life. Rita Rudner
That married couples can live together day after day is a miracle that the Vatican overlooked. Bill Cosby
May 1st is my wedding anniversary. Not just mine but “ ours.” Darrell (the husband part of the marriage) and I have worked together with a lot of determination to stay together. It was a second marriage/blended family for both of us . It certainly was not a “Brady Bunch” picnic. It could have been a sit com called,“ Dysfunction Junction.”
Humor held our hands when things seemingly fell apart. When prayers didn’t seem answered, God whispered a gentle “Ha Ha-He He’ into our married ears. God’s breath tickles anyone’s heart. Darrell and I could appreciate each other’s wide range of humor styles. Silly or sarcastic, dark or dirty, Darrell and I could use any style to reframe our troubles. Humor couldn’t cure anything, but it gave us a single moment of a ‘haha’ and turned it into an ‘ aha.” As a couple, we learned compassion for ourselves and others as we slipped on the banana peels that life put in our path. Individually, our sense of humor directed how to share difficult conversations between us. An argument’s healing occurred the moment the first punch line was thrown. I have an abundance of gratitude for all the mirthful moments I have shared with my partner of 15 years.
May 3rd is World Laughter Day( www.worldlaughtertour.com) an international day of remembering to take a moment and “ laugh.” I encourage everyone to take a moment and count all the moments of laughter, humor and mirth. I bet if you connected those dots….it would be one huge heart.
Blessings of gratitude, laughter, humor, mirth and joy,
Debra J. Hart RN BFA CLL
Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.
Phyllis Diller
I love being married. Its so great to find that special person you want to annoy the rest of your life. Rita Rudner
That married couples can live together day after day is a miracle that the Vatican overlooked. Bill Cosby
May 1st is my wedding anniversary. Not just mine but “ ours.” Darrell (the husband part of the marriage) and I have worked together with a lot of determination to stay together. It was a second marriage/blended family for both of us . It certainly was not a “Brady Bunch” picnic. It could have been a sit com called,“ Dysfunction Junction.”
Humor held our hands when things seemingly fell apart. When prayers didn’t seem answered, God whispered a gentle “Ha Ha-He He’ into our married ears. God’s breath tickles anyone’s heart. Darrell and I could appreciate each other’s wide range of humor styles. Silly or sarcastic, dark or dirty, Darrell and I could use any style to reframe our troubles. Humor couldn’t cure anything, but it gave us a single moment of a ‘haha’ and turned it into an ‘ aha.” As a couple, we learned compassion for ourselves and others as we slipped on the banana peels that life put in our path. Individually, our sense of humor directed how to share difficult conversations between us. An argument’s healing occurred the moment the first punch line was thrown. I have an abundance of gratitude for all the mirthful moments I have shared with my partner of 15 years.
May 3rd is World Laughter Day( www.worldlaughtertour.com) an international day of remembering to take a moment and “ laugh.” I encourage everyone to take a moment and count all the moments of laughter, humor and mirth. I bet if you connected those dots….it would be one huge heart.
Blessings of gratitude, laughter, humor, mirth and joy,
Debra J. Hart RN BFA CLL
Thursday, March 26, 2009
That is the saving grace of humor: If you fail no one is laughing at you.
A.Whitney Brown
Men always say the most important thing in a woman is a sense of humor. You know what that means? He’s looking for someone to laugh at his jokes.
Sheila Wentz
I like the laughter that opens the lips and the heart, that shows at the same time pearls and the soul.
Charles E. Jones
April is National Humor Month. And if that doesn’t put a smile on your face, how about acknowledging that April is Fresh Florida Tomato Month, Holy Humor Month, International Twit Award Month,, National Knuckles Down Month, National Pecan Month, Straw Hat Month and last but not least, and maybe my favorite; National Soft Pretzel Month.
Schmeckfest happens during April. Darrell and Jim both have birthdays this month. They always make me giggle, guffaw and occasionally make me squirt coffee out my nose. I also feel the need to mention Tax Day. This may or may not put a smile on your face, depending if you get money back or not.
Humor etiquette is important to know any time of the year. I know this first hand since one time I said’ what-I-thought-was funny” and it almost landed me in court. Another friend recently confessed his “ethnic’ joke” did not bring the laughter he anticipated.
Healing Humor connects us emotionally and spiritually. It can alleviate suffering in us and others. It reframes a potentially “negative” situation. It has the ability to build confidence, decrease tension and quite possibly give you hope.
Hurtful/ Harmful Humor divides and excludes people, shames and blames, laughs only at others, increases tension, and destroy someone’s self worth.
Know your audience. Certain jokes or loud laughs may not be for that particular person or crowd. It may be culturally offensive. Some things that you might say in front of your friends, you would never say in front of your Great Aunt Beulah.
Timing. Your timing of a’ funny’ can be perfect or disastrous. Sensitivity is the key. Depending on the person (audience) and where they are in their cancer chemo cycle (timing), bald jokes might not be appropriate. Maybe later on, or maybe never.
So whether you love puns, jokes or silly songs, enjoy National Humor Month. I’m also hoping you get money back from the IRS. That would put a smile on my face!
Blessing of Gratitude of Laughter, Humor, Mirth and Joy,
Debra Joy Hart RN CLL
A.Whitney Brown
Men always say the most important thing in a woman is a sense of humor. You know what that means? He’s looking for someone to laugh at his jokes.
Sheila Wentz
I like the laughter that opens the lips and the heart, that shows at the same time pearls and the soul.
Charles E. Jones
April is National Humor Month. And if that doesn’t put a smile on your face, how about acknowledging that April is Fresh Florida Tomato Month, Holy Humor Month, International Twit Award Month,, National Knuckles Down Month, National Pecan Month, Straw Hat Month and last but not least, and maybe my favorite; National Soft Pretzel Month.
Schmeckfest happens during April. Darrell and Jim both have birthdays this month. They always make me giggle, guffaw and occasionally make me squirt coffee out my nose. I also feel the need to mention Tax Day. This may or may not put a smile on your face, depending if you get money back or not.
Humor etiquette is important to know any time of the year. I know this first hand since one time I said’ what-I-thought-was funny” and it almost landed me in court. Another friend recently confessed his “ethnic’ joke” did not bring the laughter he anticipated.
Healing Humor connects us emotionally and spiritually. It can alleviate suffering in us and others. It reframes a potentially “negative” situation. It has the ability to build confidence, decrease tension and quite possibly give you hope.
Hurtful/ Harmful Humor divides and excludes people, shames and blames, laughs only at others, increases tension, and destroy someone’s self worth.
Know your audience. Certain jokes or loud laughs may not be for that particular person or crowd. It may be culturally offensive. Some things that you might say in front of your friends, you would never say in front of your Great Aunt Beulah.
Timing. Your timing of a’ funny’ can be perfect or disastrous. Sensitivity is the key. Depending on the person (audience) and where they are in their cancer chemo cycle (timing), bald jokes might not be appropriate. Maybe later on, or maybe never.
So whether you love puns, jokes or silly songs, enjoy National Humor Month. I’m also hoping you get money back from the IRS. That would put a smile on my face!
Blessing of Gratitude of Laughter, Humor, Mirth and Joy,
Debra Joy Hart RN CLL
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Debra Joy Hart on the air with January JonesDebra Joy Hart, RN BFA CLL has been in health care for 113 years. Currently she employed at a home ... Listen Now »
January Jones is the host of Whine Time and the author of " Thou Shalt Not Whine... The Eleventh Commandment'
You can go to her blog http://whinetester.blogspot.com/
or shop at The Whine Time Shop.com
Enjoy the interview with a cup of tea or coffee. January is a M.I.R.T.H. Blessing!Many thanks to all who have blessed me with laughter, humor, mirth and joy!
Especially Aunt Jackie and Uncle Irwin!
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Dorothy Wilhelm: March Mirth Maker
March is officially designated as International Mirth Month - and not a minute too soon. We need a little mirth. That’s the opinion of Allen Klein, the nation’s leading Jollytologist (actually he’s the nation’s only Jollytologist.) He believes everyone can - and should - use humor to get through tough times. Allen and fellow members of the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor (www.AATH.org) have compiled a list of “Ten Tips For Finding Humor in Turbulent Times.” http://www.allenklein...com/articles/tips.htm . Suggestions include: “ Let A Smile Be Your Umbrella.” (luckily March is National Umbrella Month). March 2 is also National Banana Cream Pie Day in case you need something to throw at these unremittingly mirthful people.>>
To read the entire wonderful article by author/speaker, Dorothy Wilhelm( copyright 2009)
Paste the url below in your browser. You will not be disappointed. This excerpt and the info below is used with permission from the author. You can contact Dorothy Wilhelm at dorothy@itsnevertoolate.com
http://www.thenewstribune.com/soundlife/story/642790.html
Here's the list of Holidays:DAYS TO CELEBRATE DURING MARCH!!
March 1
• Yellowstone National Park - 1st US National Park established
• Ohio Admission Day - March 1, 1803
• Nebraska Admission Day - March 1, 1867
March 2
• Theodor Seuss Geisel's Birthday - March 2, 1904
• National Banana Cream Pie Day
March 3
• Iditarod Begins• National Anthem Day
• Alexander Graham Bell's Birthday- March 3, 1847
• Florida Admission Day
March 4
• National Poundcake Day
• US Constitution in Effect - March 4, 1789
• Pro Tennis Players Allowed to Play at Wimbledon
• Vermont Admission Day
March 5
• Parachute Invented• Stop the Clocks Day
• The Boston Massacre
March 6
• National Chocolate Cheesecake Day
• Oreo Cookies First for Sale
• 1st Electric Power Plant Opened
March 7
• Coca-Cola Bottler's Association Formed - March 7, 1914
• Telephone Patented
March 8
• National Peanut Cluster Day
• Farmer's Day
March 9
• Barbie's Birthday
• National Crabmeat Day
• V-8 Engine Built
March 10
• National Blueberry Popover Day
• Harriet Tubman Day
• First Paper Money Issued
March 11
• Daylight Saving Time
• Johnny Appleseed Day; Johnny Appleseed Printables
March 12
• National Baked Scallops Day
March 13
• Uncle Sam's Birthday
• Uranus Discovered, 1781
March 14
• St Patrick's Day Red and Green Chili Contest to benefit Tacoma food banks, chili service starts at noon.
• Albert Einstein's Birthday - March 14, 1879
• National Potato Chips Day
March 15
• Beware the Ides of March
• Julius Caesar Assassinated- March 15, 44 BC
• National Pears Helene Day
• Maine Admission Day - March 15, 1820
March 16
• Buzzard Day
• National Artichoke Hearts Day
March 17
• Submarine Day
• St Patrick's Day
March 18
• Pillsbury Doughboy's Birthday
• National Lacy Oatmeal Cookie Day
March 19
• Sparky The Fire Dog's Birthday
• National Agriculture Day
• Wyatt Earp's Birthday
• National Chocolate Caramel Day
March 20
• Spring is Here!
• Big Bird's Birthday
March 21
• 1st US Zoo Opened
• California Strawberry Day
• Johann Sebastian Bach's Birthday, 1685
• Children's Poetry Day
• National French Bread Day
March 22
• Hale-Bopp Comet Closest to Earth - March 22, 1997
• National Bavarian Crepes Day
March 23
• National Energy Education Day
• Cable Car Patented
• Toast Day
March 24
• Harry Houdini's Birthday - 1874
• National Chocolate Covered Raisin Day
March 25
• National Lobster Newburg Day
March 26
• Cape Cod Named - 1602
• Duncan Hines' Birthday - 1880
March 27
• National Spanish Paella Day
• 1st Fire Engine Tested
March 28
• Barnum & Bailey Formed a Circus Partnership
• National Black Forest Cake Day
March 29
• Coca-Cola Invented• Oscar Mayer's Birthday
• National Lemon Chiffon Cake Day
March 30
• Doctor's Day
• National Hot Dog Day
• Eraser-topped Pencil Patented - 1858March 31
• National Clams on the Half Shell Day• Oranges and Lemon Day• Tater Day
. . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . .Calendar compiled by Homechooling at About.com http://homeschooling.about.com/cs/unitssubjhol/a/fun
Also information from Chases Calendar of Events.
March is officially designated as International Mirth Month - and not a minute too soon. We need a little mirth. That’s the opinion of Allen Klein, the nation’s leading Jollytologist (actually he’s the nation’s only Jollytologist.) He believes everyone can - and should - use humor to get through tough times. Allen and fellow members of the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor (www.AATH.org) have compiled a list of “Ten Tips For Finding Humor in Turbulent Times.” http://www.allenklein...com/articles/tips.htm . Suggestions include: “ Let A Smile Be Your Umbrella.” (luckily March is National Umbrella Month). March 2 is also National Banana Cream Pie Day in case you need something to throw at these unremittingly mirthful people.>>
To read the entire wonderful article by author/speaker, Dorothy Wilhelm( copyright 2009)
Paste the url below in your browser. You will not be disappointed. This excerpt and the info below is used with permission from the author. You can contact Dorothy Wilhelm at dorothy@itsnevertoolate.com
http://www.thenewstribune.com/soundlife/story/642790.html
Here's the list of Holidays:DAYS TO CELEBRATE DURING MARCH!!
March 1
• Yellowstone National Park - 1st US National Park established
• Ohio Admission Day - March 1, 1803
• Nebraska Admission Day - March 1, 1867
March 2
• Theodor Seuss Geisel's Birthday - March 2, 1904
• National Banana Cream Pie Day
March 3
• Iditarod Begins• National Anthem Day
• Alexander Graham Bell's Birthday- March 3, 1847
• Florida Admission Day
March 4
• National Poundcake Day
• US Constitution in Effect - March 4, 1789
• Pro Tennis Players Allowed to Play at Wimbledon
• Vermont Admission Day
March 5
• Parachute Invented• Stop the Clocks Day
• The Boston Massacre
March 6
• National Chocolate Cheesecake Day
• Oreo Cookies First for Sale
• 1st Electric Power Plant Opened
March 7
• Coca-Cola Bottler's Association Formed - March 7, 1914
• Telephone Patented
March 8
• National Peanut Cluster Day
• Farmer's Day
March 9
• Barbie's Birthday
• National Crabmeat Day
• V-8 Engine Built
March 10
• National Blueberry Popover Day
• Harriet Tubman Day
• First Paper Money Issued
March 11
• Daylight Saving Time
• Johnny Appleseed Day; Johnny Appleseed Printables
March 12
• National Baked Scallops Day
March 13
• Uncle Sam's Birthday
• Uranus Discovered, 1781
March 14
• St Patrick's Day Red and Green Chili Contest to benefit Tacoma food banks, chili service starts at noon.
• Albert Einstein's Birthday - March 14, 1879
• National Potato Chips Day
March 15
• Beware the Ides of March
• Julius Caesar Assassinated- March 15, 44 BC
• National Pears Helene Day
• Maine Admission Day - March 15, 1820
March 16
• Buzzard Day
• National Artichoke Hearts Day
March 17
• Submarine Day
• St Patrick's Day
March 18
• Pillsbury Doughboy's Birthday
• National Lacy Oatmeal Cookie Day
March 19
• Sparky The Fire Dog's Birthday
• National Agriculture Day
• Wyatt Earp's Birthday
• National Chocolate Caramel Day
March 20
• Spring is Here!
• Big Bird's Birthday
March 21
• 1st US Zoo Opened
• California Strawberry Day
• Johann Sebastian Bach's Birthday, 1685
• Children's Poetry Day
• National French Bread Day
March 22
• Hale-Bopp Comet Closest to Earth - March 22, 1997
• National Bavarian Crepes Day
March 23
• National Energy Education Day
• Cable Car Patented
• Toast Day
March 24
• Harry Houdini's Birthday - 1874
• National Chocolate Covered Raisin Day
March 25
• National Lobster Newburg Day
March 26
• Cape Cod Named - 1602
• Duncan Hines' Birthday - 1880
March 27
• National Spanish Paella Day
• 1st Fire Engine Tested
March 28
• Barnum & Bailey Formed a Circus Partnership
• National Black Forest Cake Day
March 29
• Coca-Cola Invented• Oscar Mayer's Birthday
• National Lemon Chiffon Cake Day
March 30
• Doctor's Day
• National Hot Dog Day
• Eraser-topped Pencil Patented - 1858March 31
• National Clams on the Half Shell Day• Oranges and Lemon Day• Tater Day
. . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . .Calendar compiled by Homechooling at About.com http://homeschooling.about.com/cs/unitssubjhol/a/fun
Also information from Chases Calendar of Events.
Healing Humor Distractions
Laughter is the best medicine, but only because it’s cheaper than an HMO.
Buzz Nutely
I take geranium, dandelion, passionflower and hibiscus. I feel great and when I pee, I experience the fresh scent of potpourri.
Sheila Wenz
Frame your mind to mirth and merriment, which bars a thousand harms and lengthens life.
William Shakespeare
When you are a nurse… you are “everybody’s’ nurse. You’re the “block” nurse, the “church nurse, and the “distant relative” nurse.
I went with Darrell’s cousin Sharon, to have a relatively minor procedure. She is one of the most actively supportive people I’ve ever met. If you are infirm, ailing, lonely, need a ride or need head covering for ‘The Red Hat Society, Sharon can either do it, or has it. She will lead you through a process, advocate for you, hold your hand or teach you how to make a new purse. I really admire her for that.
On the other hand, if she cuts her finger or stubs her toe, she will tell you that she has to go to the emergency room…and then she faints.
Knowing the above information, I held her hand during her 2 minute procedure. I purposely wore hand made earrings (by my daughter) so that I could distract her. I kept her visually focused and verbally engaged for 120 seconds. I also made sure she had a topical anesthetic. Her doctor complimented me, “You are a great distracter.”
Humor in the right dosage is the perfect antidote for fear. It engages the brain and distracts from the anxiety of the moment.
Humor appropriately placed and timed, leads the mind away from unpleasantness and creates a space for courage to take root.
Humor in nursing is a lot like gardening in wild prairie. I plant a few seeds of silliness and I never know what will sprout up. Sometimes my tears are the water and my sarcasm is the fertilizer. Words like, “we need to be serious” or people that seem to be afraid to laugh and condemn those that do, trample the tender seedlings of hope and faith that grow from humor.
Plant Blessings of Humor, Laughter, Mirth and Joy,
Debra Joy Hart RN CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Laughter is the best medicine, but only because it’s cheaper than an HMO.
Buzz Nutely
I take geranium, dandelion, passionflower and hibiscus. I feel great and when I pee, I experience the fresh scent of potpourri.
Sheila Wenz
Frame your mind to mirth and merriment, which bars a thousand harms and lengthens life.
William Shakespeare
When you are a nurse… you are “everybody’s’ nurse. You’re the “block” nurse, the “church nurse, and the “distant relative” nurse.
I went with Darrell’s cousin Sharon, to have a relatively minor procedure. She is one of the most actively supportive people I’ve ever met. If you are infirm, ailing, lonely, need a ride or need head covering for ‘The Red Hat Society, Sharon can either do it, or has it. She will lead you through a process, advocate for you, hold your hand or teach you how to make a new purse. I really admire her for that.
On the other hand, if she cuts her finger or stubs her toe, she will tell you that she has to go to the emergency room…and then she faints.
Knowing the above information, I held her hand during her 2 minute procedure. I purposely wore hand made earrings (by my daughter) so that I could distract her. I kept her visually focused and verbally engaged for 120 seconds. I also made sure she had a topical anesthetic. Her doctor complimented me, “You are a great distracter.”
Humor in the right dosage is the perfect antidote for fear. It engages the brain and distracts from the anxiety of the moment.
Humor appropriately placed and timed, leads the mind away from unpleasantness and creates a space for courage to take root.
Humor in nursing is a lot like gardening in wild prairie. I plant a few seeds of silliness and I never know what will sprout up. Sometimes my tears are the water and my sarcasm is the fertilizer. Words like, “we need to be serious” or people that seem to be afraid to laugh and condemn those that do, trample the tender seedlings of hope and faith that grow from humor.
Plant Blessings of Humor, Laughter, Mirth and Joy,
Debra Joy Hart RN CLL
Age Wise Care Management
debrajoyhart@gmail.com
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Digging for Treasures
If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?
Lily Tomlin
I don't understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine's Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon. Author Unknown
My husband, Darrell had a web based ordering flop. Desperately seeking dark chocolate chai tea, he accidentally ordered a $10.00 candy bar (plus s&h charges).
Not wanting to waste his “mistake”, each of us had a taste. “Blech” was my reluctant review. He nodded the same sentiment as he left the room. C’mon, who really wants to admit that an expensive piece of culinary anything…was awful? He mumbled something about cheap chocolate being the best.
I knew how to remedy my taste bud situation. I went to his chocolate hiding place ( like I didn’t sniff it out 2 months ago) and got myself 3 small pieces of reasonably priced chocolate. This brand (unlike the $10.00 kind) has sweet sentiments printed on the inside of its red foil cover. I love being blessed with pearls of wisdom written in wrapping.
I left the room for a moment, and by the time I got back, my husband had thrown my “ hidden treasures” in the garbage. I dug my red foil fortunes out of the trash, so I could read them again. “A smile is the perfect gift.” “The best Holiday decoration is a smile.” My favorite,” Joy is contagious.”
Sometimes we just have to dig thru the trash…to regain our treasures.
If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?
Lily Tomlin
I don't understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine's Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon. Author Unknown
My husband, Darrell had a web based ordering flop. Desperately seeking dark chocolate chai tea, he accidentally ordered a $10.00 candy bar (plus s&h charges).
Not wanting to waste his “mistake”, each of us had a taste. “Blech” was my reluctant review. He nodded the same sentiment as he left the room. C’mon, who really wants to admit that an expensive piece of culinary anything…was awful? He mumbled something about cheap chocolate being the best.
I knew how to remedy my taste bud situation. I went to his chocolate hiding place ( like I didn’t sniff it out 2 months ago) and got myself 3 small pieces of reasonably priced chocolate. This brand (unlike the $10.00 kind) has sweet sentiments printed on the inside of its red foil cover. I love being blessed with pearls of wisdom written in wrapping.
I left the room for a moment, and by the time I got back, my husband had thrown my “ hidden treasures” in the garbage. I dug my red foil fortunes out of the trash, so I could read them again. “A smile is the perfect gift.” “The best Holiday decoration is a smile.” My favorite,” Joy is contagious.”
Sometimes we just have to dig thru the trash…to regain our treasures.
Tuesday, January 06, 2009
My Favorite Power Tools
He who laughs last didn’t get it in the first place.
Rodney Dangerfield
Laughter is the best medicine, but only because it’s cheaper than an HMO.
Buzz Nutely
A new study says that one of the advantages of the treadmill is that it’s the highest calorie burner of the exercises. And another advantage is that hamsters can now laugh at us.
Johnny Robish
Happy Mirthful New Year!
As I look around our home I marvel at what my husband has done in the past year. He took out our bathtub, put in an extra wide shower, hooked up a shower head that resembles a rain fall, fixed the plumbing, dry-walled a new ceiling and wall, and installed an exhaust system over the stove so the fire alarm doesn’t go off every time I cook. In the coming months, he and I will decorate the bathroom with tile and new lighting. Our closets will have new doors, the carpet will be torn up and this wonderful husband will lay down new laminate flooring. An amazing man….with amazing tools.
What tools do you have in your tool box? How do you rebuild your inner house? What are your tools for change?
Humor, Mirth and Laughter are three tools I use everyday. The implement of humor lets me see a different perspective. Humor reframes any given situation. It is a can opener, releasing the contents of mirth and laughter. Mirth is more like a wheel. It drives my emotions of joy and pleasure. Laughter whittles away negativity and creates a moment of feeling positive. The act of laughing, even when I don’t feel like it, is sort of like duct tape. It holds me together for awhile, until I can replace or fix the part that is hurting.
It doesn’t matter if you are installing dry wall, or looking at your inner walls, you just need the right tool for the job. I bet you have it.
Blessings of Humor, Mirth and Laughter for your inner and outer home repair!
He who laughs last didn’t get it in the first place.
Rodney Dangerfield
Laughter is the best medicine, but only because it’s cheaper than an HMO.
Buzz Nutely
A new study says that one of the advantages of the treadmill is that it’s the highest calorie burner of the exercises. And another advantage is that hamsters can now laugh at us.
Johnny Robish
Happy Mirthful New Year!
As I look around our home I marvel at what my husband has done in the past year. He took out our bathtub, put in an extra wide shower, hooked up a shower head that resembles a rain fall, fixed the plumbing, dry-walled a new ceiling and wall, and installed an exhaust system over the stove so the fire alarm doesn’t go off every time I cook. In the coming months, he and I will decorate the bathroom with tile and new lighting. Our closets will have new doors, the carpet will be torn up and this wonderful husband will lay down new laminate flooring. An amazing man….with amazing tools.
What tools do you have in your tool box? How do you rebuild your inner house? What are your tools for change?
Humor, Mirth and Laughter are three tools I use everyday. The implement of humor lets me see a different perspective. Humor reframes any given situation. It is a can opener, releasing the contents of mirth and laughter. Mirth is more like a wheel. It drives my emotions of joy and pleasure. Laughter whittles away negativity and creates a moment of feeling positive. The act of laughing, even when I don’t feel like it, is sort of like duct tape. It holds me together for awhile, until I can replace or fix the part that is hurting.
It doesn’t matter if you are installing dry wall, or looking at your inner walls, you just need the right tool for the job. I bet you have it.
Blessings of Humor, Mirth and Laughter for your inner and outer home repair!
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